HOW TO BEAD A ROGUE ELEPHANT The Musings Of A Jewelry Designer: Mortality

It has been three weeks since my life partner and business partner, Jayden, passed away, when I am composing this musing. She had been sick a long time. Her passing was an all-too-soon shock, but not a shock. Maggie, our maltipoo, was very close to Jayden. She has walked into Jayden’s bedroom repeatedly, every day since, whimpering for awhile, then coming over to me and getting very close. It has been three weeks.

There is a finality to jewelry design. You grieve each time you sell or give away one of your pieces. Designing a piece is an exercise in finding an emotion, getting inspired by that emotion, elaborating on that emotion, make choices about parts and stringing materials in line with that emotion, anticipating how the client will recognize that emotion and somehow make that emotion their own, as they purchase and wear the piece. Design becomes a frequent exercise in attaching then detaching from an emotion.

Grief. One of the core aspects of jewelry design. Inevitable. Unescapable. Difficult with which to cope.

Mourning Jewelry

One style of jewelry — aptly named Mourning Jewelry — is there to assist those in mourning. It may be used simply to signal to others that a loved one has passed away. But it also becomes a…